The other day, I was watching a Youtuber talk about books she plans to read. She gave a brief synopsis of each, and explained why it appealed to her. One book was about a couple who had fertility issues, an experience the Youtuber herself had gone through in the past few years.
She stated that she wasn’t sure if she was ready to read the book, although she’d heard it was good, and it might be healing for her. So, she said, “I’ve decided to give myself grace” in approaching this subject matter – the grace to bail out at any time, the grace to decide she wasn’t ready after all, the grace to start the journey with permission to not finish.
I was struck by her words. We often talk about showing grace to others, but showing grace to ourselves is an important part of self-care. We need to give ourselves permission to fail, permission to decide that we’re not ready after all, permission to back out of our choices if the time comes when they don’t seem right for us anymore.
Look, I’m all for “seeing things through.” Perseverance – what my mom calls “stick-to-it-ive-ness” – is essential for completing many of our life journeys. But just as we would be gentle and understanding with others, we should show ourselves the same consideration when it comes to challenges that may be – just for a moment – more than we can bear.
We talk about falling down and getting back up, but sometimes getting up takes time. Healing and recovery take time.
Be gentle with yourself today. Show grace to the person in the mirror.